"With Whom Can I Be Careless?" - Wednesday, March 21, 2018 - submitted by Dianne Prince
When you trust God, you hold on to what His Word promises you despite the facts and in the face of the onslaught of “data” the world, the flesh, or the devil is amassing upon us. You cast your cares upon God and you are free to go about your daily business. Why? You feel safe and secure because you know He is taking care of your every need. Paul tells us that, Love always trusts the other person." One of the Old Testament words for trust is batach, which means careless. When you truly trust another person, you feel so safe until you are careless—free of concern that he or she has an ulterior motive. You are free to be who you are. You do not have to protect certain information about yourself, but you can share it all freely.
Who in your life can you be “careless” with? Who in your life can you totally let down your guard with? Who can you totally open up yourself to as an open book, sharing all the good, the bad and the unexpected, knowing the information shared will be guarded and not revealed? Does God come to mind? Does anyone in your inner circle or your family come to mind? When you disclose your strengths as well as your weaknesses to another person, it makes you vulnerable. However, by doing so, it gives the other person an opportunity to love you, to accept you, and to really understand your heart.
Trust does not mean you go around telling everybody you know all of your business; nor, does it mean you always let down your guard with everyone you meet. You must be careful who you trust with your most intimate secrets. If not, your life’s story may end up on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or some other social media network. Trust does not mean you are to be naive. What it does mean is you do not walk around being suspicious of everyone you meet. Nor does it mean you doubt the character of another person without good reason, or doubt the motive of another person just because they look, talk or think differently than you do, or rub you the wrong way.
Do not believe a person is automatically guilty until proven innocent. Believe just the opposite—a person is innocent until proven guilty. (This concept sometimes takes much prayer and conversation with God, especially when the evidence says otherwise.) If there is a problem or something comes up missing, do not automatically leap to conclusions and blame the other person. Believe the best about the person until proven otherwise. (This too, is hard especially if the person has been known to have “sticky” fingers in the past.) However, when it has been proven that trust has been broken, when confidence has been violated, do not credulously go on trusting. Do not blindly ignore the facts or gullibly pretend all is well. Why? You have been given reason to be careful, to keep your guard up, and to meticulously shield yourself.
In order to trust a person two things are necessary: 1) he must be trustworthy and 2) you must get to know him. In order to build trusting relationships, be forthright (some people can not handle forthrightness. Be forthright anyway—people need to know where you stand on a given topic). Be honest. (Some people can not handle honesty. Be honest anyway—the truth will set you and them free.)
In order to have trusting relationships, seek the “good” in the other person. You may have to look wide and deep. But there is some “good” in everybody. Be willing to let down your guard and become intimately involved in the life and interests of the other person. (This could be taxing, especially if they thrive on issues. Some people do.) Put “time” into the relationship. As a result, trust will take root and grow strong. And, always express an optimistic view of life. Trust those in your circle until proven otherwise and trust God in everything.